This blog post has been written in the perspective of two time cancer survivor, Vanessa Delle Monache. Follow along her story as she is diagnosed with both Hodgkin’s Lymphoma and breast cancer and learns to overcome both diseases and share her Story of Hope for others.
MY DIAGNOSIS DIAGNOSES
I was fifteen years old when I was first diagnosed with cancer. I found a pea-like bump on my neck while I was watching TV. I don’t remember feeling sick. My mom has told me that I had a lingering cough for quite some time. Once I had a biopsy and some tests done, I was diagnosed with stage 4 Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. At the time I didn’t know much about cancer. This was back in 2003 when cancer wasn’t as prevalent as it is today. The hardest part of my cancer journey was losing my hair. I remember being so devastated about this as a teen. Thankfully my body responded well to treatment. When I was finished treatment, I tried my best to go back to normal. I’m pretty sure a lot of my friends and peers knew me as “the girl with cancer” and I hated it. I didn’t talk about my diagnosis much after the fact. I wanted to move on with my life and forget that it happened. I was ashamed and embarrassed. As a teenager, I was very naive and didn’t know any better.
When I turned twenty-five, I began yearly breast screening. Having had mantle radiation to my chest, I was told that it is possible I develop breast cancer later in life. In the summer of 2017, I received a phone call that I would need to come back for more testing. After numerous tests and various individuals telling me it didn’t look like cancer, it was in fact. I was in complete shock. I didn’t feel any lumps or bumps in my breasts, and I didn’t feel sick at all. Nothing could have prepared me for this cancer diagnosis, especially since this was now the second time hearing these awful words.
For the Hodgkin’s Lymphoma, I received five rounds of chemotherapy and three weeks of radiation treatment. The chemotherapy made me so sick. After every round, I developed a fever and had to be admitted to the hospital. I remember a few times having had to have blood transfusions to increase my blood counts. These were some of the toughest days, not only for myself but for my parents too.
For my Breast Cancer diagnosis, I had a double mastectomy, four rounds of chemotherapy, five weeks of radiation treatment, a lymph node dissection surgery as well as numerous reconstruction surgeries. I had a few complications during reconstruction, so it was a very tough process for me.
MY WORDS OF WISDOM TO YOU
Don't give up hope.
No matter what your diagnosis is, never give up hope. Believe that everything will be alright and try to visualize it in your mind. Miracles happen every single day. Find others that are proof that these miracles do happen.
You are not alone.
Cancer can be very isolating. I didn’t know anyone else personally that was battling cancer. I also felt very alone at the cancer centre where I had appointments and received treatment. I felt like the youngest person there. It took me a few months to finally reach out to a social worker who encouraged me to join some support groups. I also decided to search for individuals that shared their journey on social media. Finding other women and connecting with them was one of the best things I did. I finally felt understood. My advice would be to find other individuals going through a similar situation as you. I have even made some wonderful friends this way.
Take it one day at a time.
Cancer can be very overwhelming, especially when you are first diagnosed. A lot of information is thrown at you initially and your mind will most likely be all over the place. Take some deep breaths and try not to look too far ahead of what’s to come.
Let your loved ones help you.
Battling cancer is exhausting both physically and mentally. Surgeries and different treatments are likely to make you feel sick. During this time, it’s important for your body to rest. Do not overdo it. Ask tour family and close friends for help. Let them know exactly what you need them to do. Some things could be getting you groceries, taking you to appointments or picking your kids up from school. Many of these people won’t know how they can support you so that’s why it’s important for you to tell them exactly how.
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